Pronouns Matter when Psyching Yourself Up – HBR

Some people seem to have an amazing ability to stay rational no matter what.

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They efficiently make good, clear decisions while the rest of us waste energy doing things like panicking about upcoming tasks, ruminating pointlessly, or refusing to move on from our failures.

If you are not always one of those people, read about this interesting research by Ethan Kross from the University of Michigan and Ozlem Ayduk from UC-Berkeley about a simple change can make the difference between showing up like a cool-headed rationalist or a very worried and stressed out (but typical) human.

Pronouns Matter when Psyching Yourself Up – HBR.

In addition, here’s a link to a podcast of my past radio interview with Dr. Kross, “Can You Teach Yourself to Be Wiser.”

Increase the Odds of Achieving Your Goals by Setting Them with Your Spouse – HBR

This is an interesting post!

Consider, if you aren’t doing this already, making your spouse a more clearly defined member of your “team” as you seek to attain professional and private goals. This article suggests some great ways of formalizing the process, so that it doesn’t get lost in shuffle of the day-to-day “busyness”, and, so that the value of your support to each other is maximized.

How do you do this? What can you add? I’d love to hear your ideas.

Couple Smiling at One AnotherIncrease the Odds of Achieving Your Goals by Setting Them with Your Spouse – HBR.

How Can I Make Sure My Resume Gets Past Resume Robots and into a Human’s Hand?

j0443136When people tell me that they’ve been looking for a new job for many months, but have gotten nowhere, I explore with them what exactly they have been doing.

Often, what it turns out that their job hunt has consisted mainly of scrolling through job postings online,(usually around 10 or 11 o’clock at night),and every now and then clicking “submit.” When I tell them that this is usually the least effective way to find a job, especially, the ideal job for them, they are often surprised.

This cool info-graphic illustrates a major reason why:

How Can I Make Sure My Resume Gets Past Resume Robots and into a Human's Hand?.

Office Politics Is Just Influence by Another Name

Great article by Annie McKee, a senior fellow at the University of Pennsylvania, director of the PennCLO Executive Doctoral Program and co-author of Primal Leadership with Daniel Goleman and Richard Boyatzis ,u3peopleas well as Resonant Leadership and Becoming a Resonant Leader.

Think of the really great leaders you have known. Haven’t they all been exceptional in their ability to influence? What would you add to this?

Office Politics Is Just Influence by Another Name – HBR.

Hand Gestures Reveal Complex Thoughts – Business Insider

MH900431702What do our bodies and , in particular, our hands show us about our information processing?

The body knows more than we know……

A fascinating article about some really interesting research!

I’d love to learn more. How about you?

Hand Gestures Reveal Complex Thoughts – Business Insider.

Time, Energy and People – Your Three Biggest Assets | Finance Lights

Where is your focus?

Are you focusing your time, thoughts and energy in the right areas? In the right proportions?

This article addresses this so effectively, it could be a “must read” every morning for those of us who are striving for excellence. What are your thoughts?

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Time, Energy and People – Your Three Biggest Assets | Finance Lights.

Signs That You Lack Emotional Intelligence – HBR

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Have you noticed that those who most could use some help with their emotional intelligence are often the least likely to know it?

Here is a wonderful article on the subject that could help you or someone else shed some light on this. (Remember, unlike IQ, which is largely fixed, EI is something that can be learned and improved, often with the help of good tools and an excellent coach.)

Signs That You Lack Emotional Intelligence – HBR.

5 Ways to Get Better at Asking for Help – HBR

Here’s a great post from the Harvard Business Review, with ideas that not only apply to work and career, but in all areas of your life.

I know from experience, both mine, and that of many of my clients, many of us could get better at this….

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5 Ways to Get Better at Asking for Help – HBR.

Taking the sting out of criticism at work

Most people have a hard time responding effectively to negative feedback.

Here’s a good article from Fortune Magazine that may help you to think about it,
and subsequently, respond to it in a different way:

Little Girl Covering EarsTaking the sting out of criticism at work.

Easy Steps To Get Respect

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Nice article from Maria Gamble at Forbes about how to get respect, and, the relationship between respect and trust.

Easy Steps To Get Respect.